linking up with wild and precious today.
This girl! She really, really wants to communicate. She has quite a few words, but she's keenly aware that there are far more that she doesn't yet have in her vocabulary, and it frustrates her.
The result? A lot of yelling around here. "Uhhhh! Uhhhh!"
I spent a few days mulling the whole thing over: Should I say, "No yelling"? "Mama doesn't like that voice"? "Can you use a nicer voice"? In the end I just decided to say what I think she's trying to say, and to say it in a nice voice, and to not address the yelling per se. So our conversations go something like this:
Nell: Uhhhhh! Ahhhhh!
Sarah: "Water, please, Mama! May I please have my water cup?"
Nell: Ahhhhhh! AAAAAHHHHH!
Sarah: "Book, please, Mama! Will you read me a book?"
Sarah: "Help me, please, Mama!"
And so on.
I'm actually less bothered by the grating sound of her yells now that I've consciously decided I'm not under some sort of parental obligation to do much of anything about it. She already has at least a dozen words... the others she's looking for will come in time, right?
I know, it's a long, long process, this helping children find their words.
But I like to hope that by the time she's eighteen she'll be able to eloquently express her feelings with honesty and accuracy.
Oh Nell, we love you so.